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Start your own colony: 8 benefits of keeping exotic invertebrates as pets

Whether you want something short-lived, cheap-to-buy and easily looked after by your kids, or you want something clean, silent and scent-free to brighten up your home, you could do a lot worse than diving into the wonderful world of pet invertebrates. You might even discover a new passion that you never realized you even had!

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I don't want to say #metoo, but here's why I will

"I wish we didn't have to rip our pasts open & show you everything & let you ogle our pain for you to believe us about predation and trauma." – Lindy West. The sad fact is, though, that the #metoo phenomenon of sharing seems to be the only way to make any headway in chipping away at the bedrock that allows people with any modicum of power to exploit the vulnerabilities of those who have been raised to be silent and self-blaming. Victims are forced to either take on the system themselves or join together to raise a tiny flag to create larger flag aiming for change.

Consensual robo sex? The evolution of sex scenes in Blade Runner

In Blade Runner 2049, there's a spacey three-way between humans and replicants that was fascinating and compelling. We could debate the finer points of whether or not replicants can actually consent, but I'm going to instead compare it to its predecessor, the original Blade Runner from 1982. There was one particular scene that still sticks with me as highly controversial…

How to throw a thrilling Michael Jackson birthday party (for kids AND adults)

I don't take party planning lightly, and mainstream kids parties just don't work for his interests. And, as I am about everything, this party had to be entirely immersive — I get a high from this stuff. Plus my son makes THE cutest Smooth Criminal ever, I HAVE to say. So my almost four-year-old and I planned his Michael Jackson birthday party together…

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How to throw a thrilling Michael Jackson birthday party (for kids AND adults)

I don't take party planning lightly, and mainstream kids parties just don't work for his interests. And, as I am about everything, this party had to be entirely immersive — I get a high from this stuff. Plus my son makes THE cutest Smooth Criminal ever, I HAVE to say. So my almost four-year-old and I planned his Michael Jackson birthday party together…

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7 tools & apps that make life way more organized and chill

My cat never does seem to start acting as my personal assistant, despite my pleas. Even with all my emails, projects, and stress piling up around me. Rude. I guess we're stuck having to keep ourselves organized, Bear, jeez. If you're in this pickle, know you're not alone. But here's where technology can actually help instead of hinder: seven life organization apps that we use to keep shit organized.

Judgmental and unkind statements make me feel irresponsible to be on Medicaid

Even though I know with certainty this was the right decision for us, guilt, fear, shame and embarrassment smother me every day. I listen to people who don't know our full situation make callous, judgmental and unkind statements about Medicaid and the people on it.

It seems many people view Medicaid recipients as lazy, manipulating-the-system types. And that makes me feel sad and ashamed. It makes me feel "less than." It makes me wonder… Is that who we are now? Are we suddenly bad, lazy and immoral members of society because we found ourselves in a difficult, life-changing situation?

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I don't want to say #metoo, but here's why I will

"I wish we didn't have to rip our pasts open & show you everything & let you ogle our pain for you to believe us about predation and trauma." – Lindy West. The sad fact is, though, that the #metoo phenomenon of sharing seems to be the only way to make any headway in chipping away at the bedrock that allows people with any modicum of power to exploit the vulnerabilities of those who have been raised to be silent and self-blaming. Victims are forced to either take on the system themselves or join together to raise a tiny flag to create larger flag aiming for change.

Consensual robo sex? The evolution of sex scenes in Blade Runner

In Blade Runner 2049, there's a spacey three-way between humans and replicants that was fascinating and compelling. We could debate the finer points of whether or not replicants can actually consent, but I'm going to instead compare it to its predecessor, the original Blade Runner from 1982. There was one particular scene that still sticks with me as highly controversial…

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Hidden Blessings: Dispatches from the midlife trenches

This weekend I am doing one of the most cliche things I've ever done: I am going to a midlife crisis workshop. Let me pull back and say it even bigger: I am a white divorced 42-year-old mom, and I am going to a midlife crisis workshop. I built a literal empire on offbeatness, but the current reality is pretty fucking stereotypical: just a confused midlife white lady going through a midlife crisis, here! NICE TO MEET YOU.

Fun makeup brushes for all kinds of gorgeous unicorns

Gone are the days of boring makeup brushes — we now have more cute/geeky/fun/pretty/offbeat cosmetic brush options than ever! Here are a few unique styles for you to drool over, all available on Amazon.

Bonus: they're all vegan makeup brushes! No animal bristles here, thank you. Check 'em out…

Recent Food

Throw this creepy but elegant goth dinner party

When planning this super creepy goth dinner party, I wanted to avoid the kitschy, usual food you see at Halloween parties: the hot dog "fingers," the mummy pigs in a blanket… I wanted food that was elegant and still tasty!

These are the creepy things I will serve you if you ever come to eat at my house…

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Meat eaters and vegetarians CAN happily live together

When my meat eating husband asked me to move in with him his biggest anxiety wasn't about splitting bills, or any of the other typical issues that new couples worry about. His major worry was about my vegetarianism, and how he could go about eating what he wanted to without upsetting me.

I've never made a big deal out of him eating meat. However, when he brings meat into our home, there are a few things I ask him to do to make me more comfortable with it…

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On unexpectedly finding love after feeling like I don't deserve it

I gave bits and pieces of myself to people that never really earned it. I was hurt repeatedly, but was okay with that, because I thought "I deserved it." I had a resentment buried down inside of me so deep that it had tainted my being. I was told I wasn't good enough and I believed it — I let myself believe his words. I had never looked in someone's eyes and saw love. I just kept living with mediocrity.

And then I met her…

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Resources for fathers-to-be that aren't patronizing

Are there resources for fathers-to-be that aren't weirdly gendered or patronizing? My husband isn't an idiot and would love more information than "when can my wife have sex again?", "when will I get to watch sports again", or "how to do cope wife my wife's craaa-aaaa-zzyyy hormones/body/cravings/etc?"

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What's the protocol for family photos with future in-laws?

I've been dating my partner for about two and a half years and we're definitely on the road to marriage. He's very close with his family and they are currently planning some family photos with my partner's immediate family and his brother's family (wife and kids). Since we're not married, it feels weird to be part of their family's photos, especially when I haven't met them that many times (they live in another state).

Is it cool to have them take the photos without me? Is that even something you could safely suggest or should I just shut up and get in the picture?

Recent Pets

Start your own colony: 8 benefits of keeping exotic invertebrates as pets

Whether you want something short-lived, cheap-to-buy and easily looked after by your kids, or you want something clean, silent and scent-free to brighten up your home, you could do a lot worse than diving into the wonderful world of pet invertebrates. You might even discover a new passion that you never realized you even had!

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"Where grief and celebration meet": This end of life pet photo session will break and warm your heart

Beth pulled me aside in her veterinary practice and with tears in her eyes told me that she'd found a mass on Sawyer. It would not be long until he was gone. She wanted photos to capture his unique spirit, before he passed.

In Beth's grief journey, she made a bucket list for Sawyer and brazenly checked every goddamn thing off of it twice. So we set to making the bucket list part of the photo celebration of his life…

Planned Parrothood: Here's what we learned from our 14 pet birds

Before we knew it, we'd accumulated 14 pet birds before our first two years together. Many of them were rescue birds that didn't have anywhere else to go.

Sharing your home with so many birds is a learning experience, especially when many of them have behavioral issues that come with being neglected earlier in life. But we wouldn't trade our life with parrots for anything. Here's what we've learned about owning a parrot…

How to throw a pawsitively perfect dog birthday party

If you think that pets are part of the family, why not throw them birthday parties, too!? Don't worry if you don't know your pet's actual birthdate, you can celebrate their "gotcha day" or "adoptiversary"!

Here's how to plan the perfect party for your pet…

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Did you know that litter box services exist!?

Maybe you're like me and you're sick of cleaning litter boxes. Or maybe you have an illness that sucks up all of your energy. (If you have limited spoons, do you really want to use them on cleaning?) Or maybe you're running a business and raising kids and taking care of your parents and volunteering and you literally don't have time to clean litter boxes. I'm here to tell you that you have options…

Recent Do It Yourself

The cold never bunny'd me anyway: How to DIY this Elsa bunny for Easter

I'm knitting Easter bunnies for my daughters and nephews this year. I decided that rather than get each kid a new stuffed bunny each year (which is what we've done up to this point) I'd just make them new clothes each year.

Since my two year old nephew is completely obsessed with Frozen (and really all Disney princesses) I decided to make him an Elsa Bunny…

Tactile warmth and friendliness: The joys of refinishing radiators

While some people may dislike them for their industrial appearance and sturdy presence within a room, I love radiators' tactile warmth and friendless and the simple beauty of a molded decorative radiator. And, after a little TLC, our salvaged radiators are truly beautiful! Have a few radiators in your home that need some love, or are looking to install some? Here's some tips and tricks to beautify your radiators…

Recent Shopping

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Behold the most absurdly cute purses that you can actually buy

I have had the same large wallet since college and it finally broke. So sheeet, I needed to know buy a new purse. I still haven't found The One yet, but I sure did find about a million that I wanted to buy. The world of absurdly cute purses is vast and eye-popping. I figured I'd share a few of my favorites in case you too are in search of a statement clutch, purse, or wallet to let everyone know that you too are a 12-year-old at heart.

Happy Donut Day: Fill your eyes with these delicious donut themed gifts

Happy Donut Day! Is it just me that geeks out over food-themed days? I thought I'd take this as an excuse to do another dorky themed gift roundup (AKA. one of my favorite things to do) and also talk about donuts. My favorite kind is boring, but amazing: The plain with chocolate glaze. What's your favorite kind? And while we're thinking about favorite donuts, here's how to fill your eyes with them, even if you can't fill your stomach with them…

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